Cooking, cooking, cooking for your man! What a engaging, thoughtful loving thing to do for him. Many woman can get their cook on and throw down in the kitchen and when a woman cooks for her man, often, he get to see another side of her. He often gets to see her creative side, nurturing, care, patience, devotion, along side building a strong bond and chemistry.
Although sex or “bedroom action” can be extremely powerful as one of the important bonding measures for a strong relationship, marriage or companionship, women can benefit often show they have multiple skills and can connect with a man in other ways than simply giving her body away to “find out” if a relationship will work.
How often have we heard stories about our grandmother, mother, aunts, female cousins & co-workers, or other women laugh it up and talk about how she or some other women hooked a man. You hear one of your female relatives say, “yeah, I got his behind with my cooking”. Or yeah, I just kept feeding his hungry behind and then he was hooked! 
Or, “don’t know you the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach, he had to get with this!” Or you hear the man’s side, in private blurting out to other men stuff like, “Man, she can cook, I just cain’t imagine leaving her the way she bakes that chicken, pork roast, fat back ribs, beef or pie, dam, I’m always hungry too!
When a women is in a relationship, marriage or some other type of companionship arrangement, she is often the biggest influence in the household through her cooking (besides her other talents); especially if she can do it well! Even if a woman is not that talented in the kitchen, a man will most likely still eat it the food and still praise her afterwards; men are simple creatures for the most part.
However, we now must look at what a woman cooks to keep or influence her relationship in other ways. There are some women who could flat out care less what she cooks for her man or kids as long as they are full and this can be the biggest danger.
Is Your Cooking Killing Him Softly?
Remember that song in the 1970’s by singer Roberta Flack, “Killing Me Softly”? For those who are not familiar with it, singer/artist Lauren Hill of the group the “Fugees” did a beautiful remake of the original song in the 1996 album “The Score”. Well “killing him softly” is exactly what can happen if a woman is not careful as to what kind of foods she cooks for her man.
Women, we have no doubt you are sincere in what you cook, however it just might be killing him slowly through heavy amounts of meat, dairy, white refined sugar, fried foods, processed cheap snacks, sodas, and toxic cooking oils. Now in putting this article in perspective, we do understand that some men are the lead cooks in relationships and cooks heart attack causing meals as well. However today, we will focus on women.
So here is where the issues between the relationship can start if the man is suffering for aliments such as diabetes, gout, high blood pressure, arthritis, cancer and other aliments usually developing over time because of that “good food” being cooked at home. Next, the man goes to a doctor, dietician or herbalist and they get the news that recent aliments have to do with the bad food they have been eating at home. From there the man comes home and is too nervous to tell his mate what the doctor has said for fear they might insult her.
I have personally heard stories of women getting so upset at the fact that they must make a dietary adjustment to the foods the shop for and prepare for the household. They are enraged and would rather have their mates blow-up like a blimp or wither away from disease rather than adjust to a healthier diet. Therefore, getting your feelings hurt and refusing to adjust to a healthier lifestyle for your man could get him killed over time. What are you going to say at his funeral, “well, at least he ate good“.
During the holiday season and throughout the year, do you plan to cook super sugary dishes simply because that is the thing to do? Or are you going to say, “well, if I gotta cook some rabbit food, cut down on meat or eat a bunch of vegetables, he just gonna have to die”. “My grandma passed down to me that beef roast recipe and I’m not giving it up”. If you do not make the adjustment, your health will be in jeopardy as well.
Do some of you remember the movie “Soul Food”, where the character “big momma” was the lead cook, cooking all that “delicious” soul food for the family that took her life, dying from diabetes? Now understand that soul food is certainly not to be singled out; it happens to be part of the SAD, or Standard American Diet, which is processed food such as hotdogs, pork, beef, greasy or fried foods, sugary/salty meals, hamburgers, dairy, cakes, pies, candies and other trash foods which is the American diet that all nationalities and cultures eat in America.
As a result, some men simply stay quiet and keep on eating poorly prepared crap at the dinner table either because they like it or, they don’t want to upset their woman and miss out on any sex! This is “real talk” by the way. Ladies, there is no reason to be insulted and getting your “feelings hurt” if your man comes home one day and wants to choose healthier foods to prepare; its not a death sentence; he just wants to live.
Hell, its hard enough to get men to go to the doctor in the first place, you should be happy he went! Furthermore, I have know of several incidents where the man wants to eat healthier and the woman refuses because her feelings are hurt and thus he eats a separate meal from her at dinner time. This is a bond and chemistry killer in a relationship!
Are You Willing To Make that Transition?
I do want to say however, I have also seen many women who do not rebel and fight against a lifestyle adjustment, do not get their personal feelings involved, and make a lifestyle adjustment together as a couple. She understands clearly that good health is first. Furthermore, she consciously understands this change in lifestyle actually builds an even closer bond as the couple works towards a competitive goal of eating better and improving their physical bodies. Therefore, a highly intelligent woman will have no problem with making healthier choices in the kitchen to keep her man and family alive.
A highly intelligent woman will also want to see her man without a portly pot belly, or looking like a round-mound, the stay puff marshmello man, or constantly doing the wobble dance while walking, the good-year blimp, etc. He will be looking good and relatively fit, just like the day you first met him. This is because of the elimination of refined sugars, fats, processed/fried foods, bad cooking oil and more raw and lightly cooked vegetables, whole grains, pure water salads and occasional desserts using natural sugars such as stevia, raw cane sugar, rice & maple syrup, etc.
Women, think about it, the more fit your man is the better he will be in all areas of his and your lives, including the sex (if that is important to you). More fluid blood flow will be down to the penis because of less plaque from heavy meats, greasy and processed foods in the blood stream.
He will also have more energy, clearer skin and less inflammation in the body which causes disease. No matter what culture you come from, every woman and man can make better choices.
More raw uncooked anti-inflammatory foods such as, fruits, vegetables, whole grains such as millet, teff, quinoa, cooking oils such as olive, sunflower, safflower, unrefined coconut and others are better choices. Use less sugar when possible and stay away from refined white sugar or high fructose sugar, it is poison!
Moringa can help in your transition
So ladies, if you decide to make slight modifications to some of your cooking to keep your man and family healthier, we recommend you start with consuming the magically potent and nutritious Moringa. Moringa or what is know as Malunggay in the Philippines, is the healthiest plant on earth. Moringa contains 4 times the vitamin A of carrots, 2 times the protein of milk (and 4 times the calcium), 7 times the vitamin C of oranges, and 3 times the potassium of bananas.
In addition, this nutritionally potent tree has 25 times the iron of spinach along with being high in omega 3’s. All together this miracle tree contains 92 vitamins and minerals and 46 antioxidants discovered through repeated scientific studies and reports.
So take Moringa as you transition to a better diet, don’t rush yourself, but be sure to take Moringa regardless because of it’s potent healing content. That way, your man and entire family will receive the nutrients inside their bodies they desperately need and deserve. Remember, working together and negotiating as a couple as to what food is best you and your man is the key.
Communication is golden so take your time if you as a couple need to discuss things out to process what is best for the two of you because the kitchen should be a place of bonding, peace and harmony between a couple. Therefore, you will be contributing to keeping him (and yourself) on this earth healthy and strong as long as possible instead of slowly and methodically, killing him softly.